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GF moving in soon

I'll try some non-retarded conversation

Basically we both realized that when we're apart we are not happy. She took a temporary job in LA, but is quitting early, and ending her lease since we both want to live together. She's moving in on the 12th of next month. She's had the key to my house for a few months now and spends weekends here. We cook meals together, go to the gym, hit the beach, ride bikes and want to get a dog - basically all the awesome couple stuff.

I do have cold feet though. As much as i love her I'm afraid this will somehow backfire. She's only 21. We don't really fight, and when we do it's about something really stupid that she found on tumbler (Does dressing as an indian steal their culture? ) and afterwards it just leads to amazing make up sex. It seems more good than bad, but I fear it as we fear all change.

Anyone want to share their experience, and the pitfalls of living together with a woman? Of all the chicks i've dated they usually had their own place, and we'd bounce around between there and here. I've never properly lived together with a chick who has no other place to go. Considering who is left on here that makes probably one or two people that has ever had a real, functional live-in relationship with a female. Either way let's hear it
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So far I've only done it once, and I was with her for 5 years before we moved in. I was 24 and she was 23. Honestly I was a little resentful since I left my hometown to move to a city where she could get a job. After 4 months of it, I actually changed my work schedule and started working Saturdays so I could have Mondays off while she was at work. It got THAT bad with me wanting my own personal time. About 6 months later she cheated on me and left. I moved back to my hometown.

NOW, that was a while ago, and what I realized is that it wasn't the moving in that made it wrong, it was who I moved in with. I then had another GF for 6 years and not once did I offer to let her move into my house, because I just didn't "feel it", and boy am I glad I didn't.

Move on to today. I've been with my current GF for a little over 9 months and so far she is the absolute coolest girl I have ever dated. We share a ton of things in common, and her lease is up in September (still 6 months away), so I told her if we're still as good then as we are now, I would love to have her move in with me. I think it really depends on what your heart says man. The 21 thing can be a bit scary, but if she has a good head on her shoulders, roll with it. I've dated some really sketchy headcases and my brain reminded me whether or not them moving in would be potentially damaging to my house or my balls Go with your gut, and if it's your place, don't let her sign a lease. Keep that Ace in the hole in case you guys split.

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That's encouraging. The way we see it is it's "shit or get off the pot" time. We've been together for 2 years as of last month. Might as well know if this can go the distance. She's definitely a "good girl" - I've had my share of bad girls and while it's challenging and exciting, I'm ready for someone with like you said a head on her shoulders. She graduated from my university right before she turned 21, and took some internship that turned into a job except they are not paying her what they promised. She's done there and will try to find work here in SD area, she likes it down here better. LA sucks imo, I'm with her on that.

The fact that I'm not moving anywhere def makes this easier. I will comfort myself with that thought. No lease either - i suppose i can always kick her out if shit hits the fan, and she can move back in with her parents who live about an hour away. I'm actually slightly weary of this - her mom is a little overbearing and will probably want to visit often
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loller did you go to ucsd
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She's a good match for me, fwiw

2 easy
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loller did you go to ucsd

I wish, no - csusm. Closer and cheaper, good enough for a bachelors.

Done with a BA in comm, going for a BS in compsci next. It's what i wanted from the start.
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fascinating stuff, great read
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So if you want to see my GFs ass send me a PM. Decide for yourself
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i've learned a great deal from these posts. cool!
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I have a 4 bedroom house. She's better looking than anything you've plunged into.

Stay jelly.

are houses cheap in north san diego
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are houses cheap in north san diego

They were when the recession hit, that's for sure. We're like the last frontier where a decent property isn't 1 mil+, like it is in other coastal cities like Del mar, La Jolla...

It gets cheaper inland of course, and south of SD close to the TJ border, but I like it here between SD and LA.

Oside average price is 430k iirc. We have a lot of retired people in smaller, older homes.
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I'm seeing an expected mix of reactions
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Moved in with my wife after 2 years of dating. 15 years later, we're still happy.

Keep a separate room for her, so that you've each got some personal space.
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Moved in with my wife after 2 years of dating. 15 years later, we're still happy.

Keep a separate room for her, so that you've each got some personal space.

That's my plan if/when the GF moves in. She actually wanted it that way.
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